Kasalukuyan akong nasa isang LDR ngayon, Long Distance Relationship, baka isipin mo nasa tren ako. Ako yung naiwan sa Pilipinas kong mahal, at si Sarah naman na mas mahal ko pa kesa sa Pilipinas ay nasa Saudi at nagtatrabaho bilang nurse. Imagine, portawsan miles plus ang layo namin sa isa't isa. Pero gayunpaman, napapanatili naming mainit at masigla ang aming relasyon. Ibabahagi ko ngayon sa inyo ang ilang tricks behind our relationship. Hindi yung tricks na naglolokohan ah, gago, heeeee :D
1. Pag-usapan Kung Ano ang mga Nangyayari.
Isa sa mga downside ng LDR ay yung kawalan. Ibig kong sabihin dun, eh yung ideya na wala ka dun physically para malaman at makita kung anumang nangyayari sa buhay ng labidabs mo. So pano to? Mag-usap. Pag-usapan nyo kung kumusta ang araw nyo, anu anong nangyari, anong kinain, anong pinagusapan, etsetera etsetera. Siguraduhin nyo lang na mafi-fill in nyo ng detalye ang isa't isa. Gawin nyo yan, EVERYDAY! Maganda rin kung descriptive and thorough ka magkwento. This builds trust in your relationship and doesn't leave your partner feeling like everything on your side of the phone or computer is a mystery.
2. Discuss the GOOD and BAD About Your Day
Okiya, so someone asked you out (di lang babae ang ina-asked out, pwede din kaming boys yes), another person made an inappropriate comment about you, you ran into your ex, you had an argument with your parents, your friend's sibling came onto you, no need to bother with telling about it with your labidabs right? WROOOONG. Eto yung sinasabi ko sa unang tip. Kelangan pag-usapan nyo kung anong mga nangyari kasi nga, WALA SILA DUN. Di nila makikita sa sarili nilang mga mata. By fabricating your life to look perfect, nagsisinungaling ka lang at parang pinapatay mo na din yung trust you share with your labidabs. Kelangan mo din sabihin sa partner mo yung mga nega sa araw mo, big or small, kahit na magspark pa to ng argument. HONESTY is the key, you need to be especially honest in a long-distance relationship due to lack of physical presence. People tend to get more suspicious and wary in an LDR, and feeding your partner all good may just make things worse. Kung sasabihin nyo yung good and bad na nangyari, you are doing something great for the both of you. Pag sinasabi mo sa labidabs mo pati yung mga bad things, they feel more trust in you that you aren't hiding anything from them.
3. Write. Blog.
Pwede rin kayo magsulat ng journals, kahit anong topic. Nagsusulat din ako dati, kahit yung mga masakit yung tema sinusulat ko. Di ko nga namalayan minsan nagising ako na binabasa ni Sarah yun eh (kahit ilang beses nya nang nabasa n_n). Writing is a great way to stay connected with your partner. Pati rin blogging. Tulad ngayon, malayo kami, so yung mga sinusulat ko sa papel dati, dito na lang nya babasahin kung gusto nya n_n
4. Mga Gamit ni Labidabs.
Kung gustong gusto mo nang makasama ang labidabs mo, isa sa second to best thing na pwede kang magkaron e yung mga gamit nila. Ano yun? saken yung damit ni mylab, ayseeeeees, haaaaa. Tinatabi ko yung puting polo shirt nya na naiwan dito sa bahay, nilalagay ko sa may unan. Pero pano pag nalabhan na, e di mawawala na yung amoy? Madali lang yan. Pag nilalabhan ko yung polo shirt nya kasi nangangamoy laway, este nakaraan na, ginagamitan ko ng Sunsilk na pink. Yun yung pinangshashampoo nya e. O diba ang kleber ko? Bwahaaaa! Ang sinasabi ko lang, kahit gano mo man ka-miss ang tao, kailangan mo pa rin maging malinis, orayt?
6. Get Acquainted—With each other's Friends and Family
Getting to know each other is all good, pero pano yung mga taong kasama nila kung wala ka? By letting your partner get more connected with your family and friends, mas less worry yung relationship kung alam nyo kung sinu-sino ang kasama ng partner mo kung wala ka. Aside from that, madadagdagan din ang friends ng partner mo, na in the long run, pwedeng makatulong at makapagbigay ng support sa relationship on both ends. Knowing the people your partner is around makes you feel more secure. This also makes your partner feel better. kasi nga pinakilala mo sya, so ibig sabihin, proud ka. Di nya iisiping ikinakahiya o tinatago mo sya. So pag properly acquainted na, pwede na kayong mag hang out kahit sa webcam lang. Tulad ko, last Christmas ang New Year, kasali ako sa celebration nila, di ko nga lang natikman yung mga handa nila on the other side of the screen, haaaaaa :D
7. Schedule
Kung di magkapareho ang oras nyo, try to make a schedule. Make a schedule for time between you, friends, jobs, etc. Pero mas maganda na mag set ng malaking oras para sa inyong dalawa, heeee. Mas maganda rin kung ipapaalam nyo sa isa't isa kung may mga magiging conflict sa schedule beforehand. Normal lang na sa pagtagal ng paanahon, magkakaron ng shift sa priorities, so try to accommodate the best you can.
8. Set Communications Up
Mahirap talaga pag nasa malayo yung labidabs mo, tska yung thought na hindi kayo nagkakausap ng harap-harapan raises the worry level. So pano to? set up communications. Pwede dito yung texting, IM, calling, emailing, or whatever while they are gone. Maganda rin na may number o email yung partner mo with at least one of your family or friends, basta pagkasunduan nyo lang na kukulitin lang to during emergencies. That way, if the two of you become too worried because one of you is much later than usual, it's easier to find out what's going on.
9. Share The Love Even When You're Away
Kung wala ka sa bahay at di kayo makapag-skype o YM, do your best to try and send them a message at least once everyday that you're gone (frequency may vary depending on circumstances). Syempre mas okay yun kasi malalaman nilang okay ka at naaalala mo sila. Also, try to reply as soon as possible when you get a message from your labidabs.
10. Napansin nyo sigurong walang number 5.
Sinubukan ko lang mang-good time. Lumusot ba? Haaaaaaa. Hinde, hanggang 10 lang muna. May mga susunod pa (naknang, parang teleserye lang).
Ilan lang yan sa mga tips and tricks. Di lang yan para sa mga magjowaers na nasa abroad ang isa. Applicable to para sa lahat, kahit na Fairview-Batasan lang ang distansya. Masarap ang magmahal, mas lalong masarap ang minamahal ka. Pero pinakamasarap pa rin yung magkasama kayo nung minamahal mo. n_n
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Waaaah! Na sad ako dito. I had an 8-yr relationship. Napunta lang sa wala. haha! pero wala ko regrets ha. Dont get me wrong. :-P
ReplyDeleteWow, 8 years? Tagal din nun mam :D
DeleteAng COOL mo talaga paliits!!!!! Si BOB ONG ka ba huh? In fairness super like ko tong blog mo ^_^ Astig! Kepp it up boy!
ReplyDeleteYay! Bob Ong? Haha, di po ako nagpapanggap na bobo pero marunong naman palang sumulat. Malayo po ang gap namin mam n_n
DeleteAnyway highway, salamat po sa compliment :D
We started by email. Then we meet in person, we exchange numbers, we talk alot, we get to know each other and after 2 weeks he's back in his country. I stay and we email and text or call each other. Then we meet again, talk more, talk less meet my family and friends. Pabalik balik lang parang cycle ba. Our relationships works. No chatting on-line, no cam to cam. Naniniwala ako pagkayo-kayo talaga. Kahit walang komyonikasyon.
ReplyDeleteWow, I'm happy for both of you mam. Well, wala namang masama sa paniniwala, but sometimes,there'll come a time for some people where they just have to go against the usual"kung kayo, kayo" ideology. Hehe, kung sana lang lahat pareha ng senyo, nakuuu, walang problema sa mundo :)
DeleteThanks for droppin by :)
trying to make the schedule meet talaga is such a hard thing if magkaiba ang oras huhu :>
ReplyDeleteyea, nung una hirap na hirap talaga ako. pero ngayon, okei na, normal daily routine ko na magising nang maaga :D
Deleteang sarap talaga ma-inlab! :D
ReplyDeletesinabi mo pa :D
DeleteI don't believe in LDR. Tried this with guys I was dating and wala talaga ... its a struggle.
ReplyDeleteYep, I agree with you mam that it's a struggle, but we could always choose whose worth the struggle after all :)
Deletesuper natuwa ako sa post mo Paliits at super nakakarelate din kasi alam mo na LDR din ako for almost 5 years now. lahat ng tips and tricks mo ginagawa namin lalo pa nga yung "mga gamit ni labidabs" haha. i wear his huge shirt as my sleeping wear! in addition though we try to be together as much as we could. every 3 months i stay in the US for 1 1/2 months, and during the months that i'm in the Phils we meet in Asia for a few days during his business trips. i am hoping he pops the question soon.hehe
ReplyDeleteHaha, yun din ang paborito ko mam, yung sa mga gamit. Ewan, haha, parang mga teenager lang e. Salamat po sa pagdaan :D and good luck sa relationship nyo, sana sa susunod nyong pagkikita sabihin nya na, haha
DeleteThese are great tips, Sev.. But honestly, they would word, only and if only, the two parties involved are willing to do what they can do for the relationship. Masisira lang talaga kapag isa lang ang merong will to make the LDR work. I've been there, done that.. so relate ako dito. hihi..
ReplyDeleteYes, may point ka mam Leah :) Kaya nga dapat din natin isaalang alang kung sino yung worth the effort :)
DeleteWow, wise words! Halatang expert ka na sir hehe COngrats on being able to keep the relationship despite the distance! :-)
ReplyDeleteHehe, di naman po sa expert mam. Base on experiences lang po :) Salamat po sa pagdaan
DeleteLong distance relationship sucks ha ha. I guess it doesn't help pag paranoid ka. My first LDR I called him up and thought I heard a woman's voice on the line. Inaway away ko siya then it happened again on another call. Boses ko pala yun nag eecho sa error ng connection. Ayun we broke up ha ha.
ReplyDeleteAahahaha, yan kase, dapat din kasi di paranoid. Eh boses mo lang pala yung naririnig mo, hahaha
DeleteNice one! Communication is really the key to a successful relationship, kahit mga hindi LDR, pag hindi na nag-uusap ng maayos and nagtatago na nang kung anu-ano, nasisira diba? Good luck to you Paliiits!
ReplyDeleteYep. Kahit na mgakalapit lang kayo, maganda talaga kung may communication :) Thanks mam Che
DeleteI'm really bad with Long distance Relationships, let alone relationships... hahaha!
ReplyDeleteI'll keep this in mind just in case.
Ahaha, ayos lang yan mam, baka may dinaanan pa yung para talaga sa'yo :D
Deleteayaw ko ng LDR, kaya hindi ko pinapayagan si hubby na mag-abroad. pag may business trip nga siya, sobrang homesick na kami. =)
ReplyDeleteHehe, gaya nga ng sabi nila, depende na kung masasanay :)
DeleteI like the humor in your take on this LDR. Tumawa ako tuloy. Ang sabi nga nila - he who laughs, lasts. My best wishes on the two of you and your LDR. Maganda ang mental set-up natin dyan :)
ReplyDeleteHe who laughs last, didn't get the joke ba yun? haha. Anyway, di naman kasi lahat ng bagay ay pinag uusapan ng seryoso, maraming ways to make a topic more interesting and fun to discuss to :)
Deletenatawa ako, as in literally, dun sa "gamit ni mylabs"...hahaha..parang makarelate anoh?hehehe..my friends online and offline used to address my boyfriend "mylab" or "mylabs"..we're not really on an LDR but since his workplace is depende lng kung san maaasign, so parang ganuun na rin..so eto n yun, damit nya, nilalabhan ko din..sinusuot kong pambahay..ahahaha..pero di magpalit ang amoy kasi same kame ng perfume..hahaha..
ReplyDeleteHAhaha, good for you mam. Naman, uso kaya yung tawagang mylab o mylabs, ibig sabihin nun, di ka napag iiwanan ng panahon, hahaha :D
Deleteim not a fan of LDR... but if it works for others.. then good for you guys! Keep the love burning
ReplyDeleteawww, yea, hehe. Thanks for droppin by :)
DeleteI agree with Jenny kahit walang komunikasyon. The main ingredient for keeping one's commitment and engagement last even forever is trust and confidence. If there's none, there could be no love. Trust and confidence edifies love. And besides you could sleep well with no worries, trivial things bothering you if both of you have trusted and have confidence with one another.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you sir. Trust and confidence edifies love. What I'm saying here is just to add up a little exitement in a relationship where you don't see each other as often as others do :) Spicing up a relationship a bit wont do damage, it could be fun :)
Delete(tawa muna ko) HAHAHAHA! Naaliw naman kao sa post mo especially yung pink shampoo na inaamoy amoy mo sa damit ni labidab mo,sweet.I had few LDR at isa don ay naging asawa ko hanggang naging ex at meron ding naging fiancee pero naunahan ni hubby na mabilis so waalng nangyari pero no regrets naman. Kami ni hubby kahit palagi nagkikita ay nagtatawagan pa rin .we call each other para lang sabihing namiss namin ang isa't isa and to say"i love you" .cheesy din di bah?.
ReplyDeleteHehe, cheesy! Nung andito pa sya sa pinas, ganyan2 din kami e, haha. Kaya kung minsan yung mga di pa kami masyadong kilala, napapatanong, bago lang kayo? Then magtataasan na ang kilay pag nalamang mag asawa na kami, para lang daaw kasing mga teenagers, haha.
DeleteAliw!!!Pink shampoo! whahaha, panalo. Ikaw na ang bagong Dr. Luv!:) I will share this sa friend ko na in a LDR ngayon, yung tipong bigla na lang bubulong bulong sa kabiang mesa kausap na pala sa skype labidabs nya! She'll learn a lot from this.:)
ReplyDeleteGreat tips. Swak din to sa mga may OFW na spouse or partner. Btw, LDR din kami noon ni bf (now hubby ko na). Grabe, tawag sya sakin almost everyday kahit ang mahal ng rate Istanbul-Manila. Other than calling, we also used chatting and email. Mabuti din naman kasi nag-click ang relationship namin. Now we have a lovely daughter na.
ReplyDeleteThis is something that my cousin should read :) Ang cute naman ng post nato :P
ReplyDeletecan I just relate to this? LOL...thanks for the advices and for the tips. Im sure this will surely help a lot of people who are in the LDR
ReplyDeleteThose were cool tips you have. Pasok na pasok to sa mga magkasintahang magkalayo. ^_^
ReplyDeleteOh geez... >__<
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